Saturday, January 31, 2015

I'm Not Single. I'm Not Taken. I'm Simply on Reserve-Waiting on GOD's will for a mate. Guest Blog by Rebekah Capps

This blog has basically been on hold for the last two months, due mostly to me being so old, tired and just a bit lazy. 

My daughter has graciously agreed to allow me to use her honest testimony as a guest blog today. She wrote this as a Facebook post.

Rebekah is a Southern Gospel Singer/Songwriter. I'm very proud of her GOD given talent and anointing.

I know this article was difficult for her to write, but she offers an honest, open look into how easy it is to make mistakes and how to avoid them.

I hope, as does she, that someone will glean some valuable wisdom from her mistakes and her trials. 

Please enjoy this testimony from my daughter, Rebekah Capps, better known as Bekah.

I'm Not Single. I'm Not Taken. I'm Simply On Reserve.

I posted this picture a couple of weeks ago because it spoke volumes about my life...and then I immediately deleted it in fear of what some might think of me...that I'm desperate for attention...that I want to make sure all my single guy friends know I'm single...that I'm immature....etc etc.....

BUT, I am posting it again and this time it will stay up...because when I saw it while scrolling through my phone this morning, it stuck out to me...and I believe there is someone who needs to hear what I'm about to say...

Be honest. Be selective. Be prayerful in choosing the person you will spend the rest of your life with. Divorce is no fun. It takes you on a roller coaster ride like you've never imagined, and it's sometimes almost impossible to end that ride. (#BUTGODCAN) If you see red flags with a person you're dating, don't ignore them! THERE'S YOUR SIGN!

Last year, I came through a painful, emotional, on the verge of giving up on everything divorce...because one of us wasn't who we said we were when the vows were spoken...and what made it even more horrible was this was divorce #2! I had already been through this feeling of the world ending and that I was dying inside just a few years before! And there I was again?!? What? Why? WHY?!?

Because I wasn't prayerful...not just in the dating period, but even after the marraige began. I let daily things like a stressful job and a messy house take first place over my prayer life. I ignored the warning signs while we were dating because I wanted to be married so bad! Being single was foreign to me...I'd been married for 15 years to the person I married a few weeks after my 18th birthday...and I wanted to show him and his new wife I could get remarried, too! Sooo not the right reasons to get me wink emoticon

Be prayerful...instead of waiting on the one who deserved my heart, I took the first one willing to put a ring on my finger. If the person you're dating, you're obsessed with, you're head over heels for, you're building imaginary houses and families with in your head (that's kinda creepy), you can't stop thinking about them...IF they're the one, let GOD say so. Not you, not your Mama, not your bff, not your nosey neighbor, not your sister, not your brother...GOD!

I've been asked by a few guys if I'm reply has been no. I'm not interested in dating anyone except for THE ONE. (By the way, I hate dating! If you wanna spend time with me, be prepared to sit around a fire with my 3 brothers and their women and me talking about nothing and everything.) I have made my petition clear to GOD...I am waiting for him. You see, I have a list of qualifications...and him being in love with GOD more than me is #1 on that list. Because ladies, if a man loves GOD more than he loves you, he's gonna know how a husband is supposed to love his wife.

I'm not saying don't date...I'm saying DON'T SETTLE! GOD in his infinite knowledge knows so much more than me and why not let Him choose for you? 


Blessings from Patti's Place to your place!


  1. What a beautiful Lady! I was looking forward to getting to know you better, when I found out things did not work out for you I was shocked. The first time I saw you I thought what a beautiful angel. God has a blessing waiting for you, your words of wisdom I hope many will find. God Bless You! I hope life has our paths cross again someday.

    1. Thank you Raphaella. I'll make sure she sees your comment!

    2. Thank you! You were always so kind to me! GOD bless! ❤

  2. I happened upon your blog while doing research on DIY facial serum using rose essential oil. Patti, thank you so much for sharing this post. Rebekah, your testimony above truly struck a chord in me-I was reading about my life! Thank you for graciously sharing your wisdom. You are absolutely right about needing to be honest, selective and prayerful. I will use your testimony as a reminder as I begin a new life, a better life for my young child and myself. Thank you again and God Bless.

  3. Thank you for taking the time to comment. Kris. I'm happy that you were blessed by my daughter's testimony! GOD bless you!